Why I Give 2 Answers to “Who’s the Daddy”

This is for my daughter. I am writing this in the computer lab at USC where I am working on my MSW. It seems fitting to be doing this here because it was at a computer in Citrus College where I wrote this same narrative for my parents. In the summer of 1993 I was […]

The Single Parent – Portrait Based on Census Data

This is for Mr Wight, a man in my acquaintance of mine who wants to know why he often hears of Dear Beat Dads and not “useless Mothers”. the 80:20 ratio explains much. 80% of all single parents are mothers. via The Single Parent – Portrait Based on Census Data.

Confessions of a Tired Working Mom | Babble

I used to have dreams that I was sleeping on a 200 foot high cliff shelf with Jax and always about to fall off. Being a single, working mom in poverty was terrifying. Even now I feel guilty for all the stuff I wasn’t able to do or had to work through. And I think […]

A Letter to My Very White Daughter, From Your Mildly Racist Mother

Dear Darla, I like this photo. You are so stinking cute in a hoodie. Every time you put on a hoodie and go walking through our gated community – I immediately think of Trevon Martin and experience a flash of thankfulness that you are not black in America today. To be sure, there have been […]

Dope.

If you are dumb enough to be a teen who lies to your folks about drug use, it follows you will be too dumb to cover your tracks. Needless to say, the owner of this note is not happy that I found it and am sharing it with her mother.

Homeless or Bad Parenting

I know some really fantastic parents who are homeless. I meet their children, get graduation announcements and copies of report cards and have the chance to see Mom or Dad in action in my office. these children are happy, healthy, and well-adjusted and aware so varying degrees that they are homeless. And, I see awful, […]